My ex, Shawn is a smooth talker and comes off as chivalrous and romantic when you first meet him. He will present himself as the wronged party in ALL his old relationships and he does NOT accept responsibility for anything that has gone wrong with him and his exes. He is VERY secretive about his past and gets mad if you try to find anything out that he hasn’t volunteered. This man is a USER and he doesn’t stay in one place or with one woman for very long. As of the present, I was his longest relationship in one area before he left me, and we were together 10 years. He hitchhiked all over the United States when he was younger. Now he is a trucker so he could turn up in any state. He told me before he left, he may be going back to Washington where his brother lives, but he is currently on the hunt in Longview, Tx.
Shawn has worked temporary jobs most of his life and has never had anything of real value such as a home or vehicle. He just bums from his family, finds a woman he can sucker into believing his hard luck story or gets her to feeling sorry for him. I was one of them unfortunately.
He married a woman from Lakeland, FL back in the mid 80′s. I don’t know why, but he ended up moving to Huntsville, AL where his parents live. While he was at a hospital in Alabama visiting a sick relative, his wife cleaned out their bank account and went back to Florida or so he says. He said he couldn’t find her after that and neither of them filed for divorce so this guy may still be married, but once again, he doesn’t want you in his business so you really can’t check into it without it causing a fight. Later he moved to Silver Springs, NM where his biological Mom lives. He left New Mexico because he claimed that his Mother accused him of molesting a young family member. He came to Texas, met a woman in a bar and moved into her house with her, her Mom, and her kids in Godley, Tx. They were together about 6 years, but he had left her and come back a couple of times within that time period. He went to jail for writing hot checks and was in for 5 months. While he was in jail, his girlfriend didn’t write to him or come to visit him. About 3 months into serving his sentence, she packs her stuff , her and the family all move to East, Tx without any warning or word to Shawn. When he got out he claims he couldn’t find her.
When we met in 2001, he had no vehicle and was living in a house with no heat or air conditioning and he had little of nothing other than a low paying job. Like an idiot I felt sorry for him when he got sick during the winter and he came home to stay with me. One thing lead to another and he ended up moving in. What he had, except for a few big pieces of old junk furniture would have for fit in my SUV. He was always secretive about his life, but especially when he would call his family. He always made a point to call when I wasn’t around or he would get in the car and leave before he called. He said he loved me and all he ever wanted was a home and a family. He also said he was tired of traveling and he wanted to put down roots and have a sense of stability. He claimed traveling was no fun alone and he would only do it again if I was with him. Well through the years of us being together, we had our ups and downs like any couple. I learned to take the good with the bad and there wasn’t many of his quirks that I couldn’t put up with because I really do love the guy. However, one thing that I COULDN’T tolerate was his looking at porn. He knew it hurt me and made me feel unattractive. Instead of just stopping it though, I found out the hard way later on, that is wasn’t just a every once in awhile thing. The man has an addiction to it and not only just porn, but TEEN porn. I have daughters the age of some of these women he watches and that made me sick. He must have thought I was really stupid, because instead of just giving it up, he went to hiding it on his computer. He was unemployed a LOT during our time together and while I was out working he would be sitting at home getting off to this filth. I came across some in his browser history once he forgot to erase so I put spyware on his computer to see what was going on. It was BAD! When I found out I blew up. We got into a big fight and it was just one of many. He would promise not to do it anymore, claim he loved me, yet it would show up again when I was just stating to trust him. It stopped for about a year, then we got smart phones and I couldn’t figure out why his data usage was so high? I got a hold of his phone one evening and found a link to a porn site on it. That’s when I put a tracker app on his phone. This man is a sick SOB. I am not a swinger, but I’m not a prude in the bedroom either. This addiction of his had gotten so bad that he was no longer interested in me. He claimed it had nothing to do with me, but when my partner can no longer get it up without a bottle of little blue pills and porn, then something is going on! He said he watches it because he has no imagination. That really hurt to know that he has to imagine some other woman just to touch me. It made me feel unloved and unfeminine. After all the years of me and my daughters buying him gifts on the holidays, supporting him and paying his bills while he was out of work, I hit a rough patch and lost my job. He was working but still wasn’t paying all the bills. He would give me some money and keep most of it himself. He was sent to East, Tx for a week on a job assignment. His ex girlfriend lives in that same area and it really had me worried. He came back on a Friday, 2 weeks ago, said, “He was tired of the fight”, whatever in the hell that meant, packed his stuff, loaded our pickup, turned his back, and drove away while I was crying my heart out. The man had NOTHING when he and I met. He left with 2 pickup loads of stuff and went right back to Longview the same night. I’m not sure if he found his ex, but I know for him to have left like he did with no warning to me, he was screwing around on me while he was down there. It’s been 2 weeks and I haven’t heard a word from him and that has got me severely depressed. Since he still has that tracker on his phone, I have seen that he is still jacking off to the porn on a fairly regular basis. I have also found his ad on several dating sites. He left me with no job and no money, even though he got paid the day he left. I’m fixing to have my utilities cut off, I may lose my vehicle and will probably lose my house I’ve had almost 20 years. This guy had the family and home he claimed to want and he threw it and me all away like we were yesterday’s trash.
This guy is on the hunt for his next victim, so please ladies don’t let it be you. I can’t stop my pain from this betrayal and loss but hopefully I can save some other woman the heartache and financial hardship that he will bring down on you. Please don’t think you can change him because it just won’t happen. He will be everything you want until he tires of you or where you live, then he will move on down the road.

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