I met this “man” at a real estate investment group in Milwaukee WI in Dec. 2010. He was “larger than life” and claimed to be a successful Real Estate Coach and entrepuer. He claimed to have made Millions in MN (twin city area) and was planning to expand his “Empire” into the WI market. He hooked me with the story about him being a divorced man of 5 years and a single parent of 4 children having to raise them on his own as his “ex-wife” was an abstentee parent and chose to be with other male suitors instead of being a mother. {I am a divorced woman that had a husband who was a habitual cheater so my heart immediately went soft for this “poor man” that had a cheating spouse too} I had a lot of questions as to how he could be in Milwaukee and travel so much if he was a single parent and he explained that he had a full-time housekeeper/nanny named “Marta” that was with the kids during his absence. Come to find out 10 months into a relationship that he was NEVER divorced and has been married to Becky for 20 years and she is a stay at home mom with their 4 kids. He also had 2 other women in MN that he was involved in long term relationships at the same time. In a nutshell, that means he had a stay at home WIFE, Mistress #1 who had a 2 year continuious relationship with, Mistress #2 for a year relationship and “swindled/conned her out of over $100,000.00, Me in WI for over 10 months, he tried to get me involved in his business dealings but fortuneately for me, my inner voice told me not to mix my money with my relationship with this guy (THANK GOD). This guy took me and the other women on trips, dinners, made promises of Marriage to all three of us, went Ring Shopping for engagement rings (all three of us) and the the list goes on and on. In June and July of 2011 he even had me get my realtor I do business with to start looking for mansions for him to purchase (cash buyer) because he “loved me and wanted to marry me” so he told me he was going to move to Milwaukee by August 1st and start a new life with me and his kids and my kids. We were going to be the new “Brady Bunch”. I am very protective of my children but I let this LIAR into my life and introduced this predator to my children who, in turn, fell in love with the massive lie he fed all of us. come to find out this man doesn’t have a pot to piss in, doesn’t own any homes, leased a jaguar and that was reposessed, can’t pay any of his bills, owes everyone thousands of dollars, made up lie after lie. At one time when I was to take my kids up to MN to meet Mike and his kids and my boys were so excited because Mike was flying us up to Minneapolis… As we were waiting for Mike to text or email us the flight information I couldn’t get in contact with him for hours. My kids were packed and ready to go and finally after 5 hours and at around 1:30 in the morning he finally called to tell me that his “father” was in the hospital and was dying…so our trip was cancelled. Even my best friend told me that either this guy was the most unlucky F****r on the planet or he was a lying sack of crap. My heartstrings pulled and I fell victim to the lie. He even took this lie to the outer limits by claiming his father did indeed die in New york. I found out that he did indeed go to New York, but it wasn’t for the Funeral that he claimed, it was to take Mistress #1 on a romantic trip to the big apple.. I have been in contact with all of the other women victims in his life and each of us had the exact same lies fed to us ver badum. I guess sociopaths have to keep the lies the same so they don’t change up the script… This liar even involved his sisters, parent(s) and he even had his children involved in this massive SCAM. That is how all of us women fell for this scam artist as his “family” members are active participants in this. He has all of his bank accounts filter through others especially his sister Margaret who seems to take part in these lies to keep these women on the line and filtering their money into their accounts. His even put his young children on the phone with me having them back up his stories with children’s validations… it makes me sick to think that he uses his kids as pawns. I still can’t wrap my head around the fact that he used his kids in all 4 relationships with all 4 women. He introduced his kids to all three of us (mistresses) and even told his kids (in front of each mistress) that he would marry them. How sick and twisted is that???? In Oct. 2011 is when I found out that he was indeed MARRIED and I flipped out. I did call his wife Becky that very night I found out and kicked his butt out of my house in Milwaukee. A few days passed and at this point this was the only lie I found out about (his still being married)… His wife Becky told me that they were living separate lives for a while and were going to get a divorce and that Mike did indeed love me and want to be with me and she gave the okay” to be with Mike, against my better judgment and my best friends advise I did give him another chance and within a month all of the other massive lies came out about all of the other women and his serious issues with money and all of the people he was scamming. I actually am the lucky one as I am not out a lot of money and I have the distance of 350 miles to keep this sicko away from me. I feel sorry for the other women as one actually lives 1 block away from the house he shares with his wife and kids…This experience I share is very generalised as there were many other issues and lies that I found out about but even if I were to put them in writing they this man is very experienced in his lies and manipulations and he is even posting on craigslist in the Minneapolis area looking for his next victim claiming to be a very busy and successful business man in need of companionship “not a booty call” and would like to meet for drinks, dinner or great conversation. STAY AWAY FROM THIS MAN…DANGER DANGER WILL ROBINSON. He claims to be 37 but is actually 41. I am attaching a picture so if you see him in your area as he does like to travel. RUN for your LIFE and hang on to your wallet.
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- Michael “Mike” J Mangan
This post was submitted by Brandi.
“Jane Doe”… Is this Tracy Berneck? Or maybe Mike Mangan or Margaret Uriah?
To answer you question, far from gaining anything, I was one of several who lost the most. There were, however, a several who lost more than I did.
And no, I enjoyed none of the “fruits of deception”, as you disgustingly put it. I don’t consider anything that is the result of deception to be a “fruit” in any way. Dozens of people naively beleived Mike’s web of lies and veneer of legitimacy. I unfortunately was one of those people. And some people still believe his lies even now, and are too brainwashed.
What I write now is a result of putting the pieces of the twisted puzzle together, talking to a lot of people, and witnessing things that are only disturbing in retrospect, knowing what the truth is now. Everything clicked into place once I learned the truth. Hindsight is 20/20. I “invested” money with Mike until the end just as the man did, and I beleived Mike’s lies just as the man did, and I lost my money just as the man did. And now I know that my hard earned money was used to fund Mike’s lifestyle, just as the man’s money was. And in no way did I benefit.
Had I known about any fraud WHATSOEVER, not only would I have reported it IMMEDIATELY and warned others, but I also would never have given Mike any money and lost so much of what I worked so hard for. I make my money honestly, thank you very much. I’m sure it will come out in the end who benefited from Mike’s scams, and who did not.
ROCK ON Jane Doe! Justice is DAMN ANNOYING!
Does this man have any privacy left? Whoever this “Justice” girl is, does she even have a job or is she doing this full time?
As I am reading this, all I can think of is defamation of character, cyber harrassment, cyber stalking, and invasion of privacy lawsuit in the making. Justice is digging herself her own grave with the information she is posting by opening herself up to criminal and civil liabilities. Ladies, you better go out and get yourself an umbrella policy FAST to protect yourself. It is not looking good on your end. I have friends who are attorneys and YIKES is right! Even the First Amendment Rights won’t protect you. You don’t want to find yourself SHITTING in your pants and in HOT WATER if you ever get served with a lawsuit. MAN OH MAN.
Tracy Berneck turned her head and allowed this to happen because she had ownership in the company. So if Mike made a buck so did she. Scary thing is she is now a part owner of another company and is leasing out accounting services…I wonder which company will be her next victim?
Christopher: That is hilarious that you are concerned about Mike Mangan’s “privacy”.
The truth is the truth, unfortunately for Mike. I imagine that it is uncomfortable for Mike Mangan that people know who he is and what he has been up to, but really that is the LEAST of Mike Mangan’s problems.
Mike is the one who should be SHITTING his pants, if his pants aren’t already full…
Good for “Christopher” for having friends that are attorneys, since we ALL know how scarce and unusual they are. (haha) Although he probably shouldn’t try to talk like he is one.
And since “Christopher” is obviously a friend of Mike Mangan, he will want to hook Mike Mangan up with his attorney friends. He needs one. Probably several.
Alrighty, alrighty. Hands up to you. As long as you don’t start sobbing and crying in a fetal position in the end, you are good to go. However, they do say “The man who seeks revenge digs two graves”- Ken Kesey. “In taking revenge, a man is but even with his enemy”- Francis Bacon.
If you can prove everything that you write as facts and not hearsay or assumptions, more power to you. If I was an attorney, I would not take your case. There is an automatic defamation per se with these post and very difficult to fight. Hope you carry some liability insurance.
The dozens of people Mike cheated and took money from the past several years all wished there had been a warning that Mike is a conman and a sociopath. Already several potential victims that Mike was “working on” have been warned via this site. And who knows how many more were warned and but didn’t post.
Note to new visitors: Check prior postings for additional accounts from numerous victims.
“Christopher”, thank you for your kind concern for the hypothetical legal issues of a stranger. Much appreciated. You are clearly an altruist.
Noone needs to seek revenge on Mike, as things will take their course and Mike will be held accountable for what he did. As long as future people are warned in the meantime, then mission accomplished.
With that, I’m out.
Christopher=Mike… Defamation? Are you kidding?? Mike made his bed when he conned and swindled all those people over all those years.
Talk about rearranging the deckchairs on the titanic.
Christopher=Mike can take his bullshit and shove it where the sun don’t shine. He should probably get used to how that feels anyway. No rest for the wicked.
I would LOVE to see Mike Mangan try and claim defamation, or that anything said here isn’t true. You could sell tickets and popcorn to that court date. That little shit Mike Mangan has earned himself a whole mess of enemies.
The below is from google ask a lawyer.com. So… according to this, mike wouldn’t stand a chance. “Christopher” as all of these VICTIMS state, they have proof and are all actually HOPING and PRAYING for their day in COURT. As a Best Friend to one of these victims I witnessed a lot of this personally and even though I was NOT A VICTIM I did personally witness his horrific fake life, especially when he stood in front of Real Estate Investing Groups trying to pass himself off as a successful Real Estate Coach and Investor. Which he was NEITHER of!!! Hdid Personally LIED TO ME to keep my best friend on his hook. LIKE HIS DAD DYING. I am sure if we drag his very much alive father in court that would prove that he is indeed a LIAR…does that mean that I am defaming him by bringing that to the attention of others to show the Character of this man? Who lies about a parent dying? REALLY????
A “defamation of character lawsuit may be brought when someone has issued a false statement about another person, which directly caused that person harm. The elements of a cause of action for defamation include: a false and defamatory statement made about another, the unprivileged publication of the statement to a third party (someone other than the person defamed by the statement), whether the defamatory matter is of public concern, and damage to the plaintiff. While damages are typically to the reputation of the plaintiff, it may be possible to establish mental anguish. (Read more if you’ve been the victim of defamation on the Internet).
Per Se Defamation
Most jurisdictions will also recognize “per se” defamation, where it is presumed that the allegations caused damage to the plaintiff. Attacks to a person’s professional character or standing, allegations that an unmarried person is unchaste, allegations that a person is infected with a sexually transmitted disease, or allegations that a person has committed a crime of moral turpitude are all examples of per se defamation.
Are Insults and Opinions Considered Defamatory?
Insults are not normally considered defamatory because they are seen as outburst of emotion with no real substance other than to show dislike. A critique of a restaurant, movie, TV show or theater play is not considered defamatory unless they are disparaging enough to result in a loss of business or reputation. Opinions are not generally considered defamatory because they rarely contain specific facts which can be proven untrue. The courts will look at whether a reasonable reader would believe the statement was asserting a fact. (Learn more about Free Speech and Defamation)
Proving Harm
You must first show there was a false statement made about you if you are attempting to prove defamation of character. You must show there was a statement of fact made about you and that it was either untrue and not privileged. You must then establish that the statement was relayed to a third party. It’s not enough that the untrue statement was made, it also has to have been stated or published to others, and if a public figure is seeking to prove defamation they must additionally show the statement was made with actual malice. You must present evidence showing that this particular statement caused you harm or exposed you to hatred, ridicule, contempt or caused injury to you in your occupation. Finally, you must recognize that the defenses in a defamation of character suit include truth, privileged statements, such as those made in court, or innocent dissemination of the statement.”
Oh, by the way, “Christopher” a District Attorney that was a “target” on this very website tried to sue his ex girlfriend for posting on this site saying it was liable and slanderious. HE LOST the suit. So Good Luck Poser. or Mike or whoever you are. I am sure you can pass this little note on to poor Mike and his damaged private life. Your life isn’t private when it is based entirely on LIES.
Some of us are using our real names on this site and some of us are not due to pending LEGAL ISSUES against this Man that STOLE AND SWINDLED US OUT OF OUR MONEY. On average, the people that spoke up in Mike Mangan’s Bankruptcy Hearing… most were asking where their 35k was, 42k, 55k, 85K, 100k, 118k, just to throw out a few figures of what I heard while I was personally sitting in that courtroom listening to his VICTIMS. Do these figures sound like chump change to you?. so Jane Doe, John Doe, Christopher, etc. that still have your blinders on about MIKE MANGAN maybe you are his helpers such as his sister and brother in law, accountant, office assistant, etc. Don’t worry your time will come as well because if you think for one minute that this discusting individual WON’T sell YOU down the river to save his sorry skin you have no idea what a sociopath is willing to do for himself as that is the only person he cares about – HIMSELF. Good luck to his soon to be Ex-Wife. I hope she takes those kids as far away from him as she can possibly go. Make sure to get them in therapy as they will need it in order to have healthy loving relationships in their futures.
Well said, James. Those are indeed large sums that have been stolen from people. There is no doubt in my mind that Mr. Mike is hiding money somewhere and I am sure the courts will find it. It probably only takes a private investigator to follow him around for a few days to see what bank he goes into to get some cash out of his deposit box so he can buy himself and his craigslist date a fucking sandwich.
Obviously, he has to pretent that he’s poor right now, but we all know how good he is at acting. When he HAS to show up with money, he usually does (divorce lawyer, housing court). Go figure.
I use my real name here because I have nothing to hide. I was the victim. Why should I hide? Mike Mangan (Christopher)can sue me all he wants. (& YES! I do have an umbrella insurance policy…. SO BRING IT Mike Mangan!!!) I WELCOME my day in court with him. I have told nothing but the truth on this site & to every person that will listen to me. I have proof of my allegations. I have lived through each & every situation with Mike Mangan I have spoke of & I showed up at his last bankruptcy hearing to attest to his lies in a court of law. Only to find out I was already thrown into the mix unknowingly. Mike Mangan used my name as a pay out in one of his companies. It was noted as “payroll”. I never worked a day of my life for Mike Mangan, we were only romantically involved & my name should not have shown up anywhere near any of his business financials. I alerted this out & out lie to the trustee immediately after the hearing & Mike Mangan’s world has been steadily falling apart since then. You can only lie for so long before the truth catches up to you. I do not post her for revenge. I do it as a public service. Lord knows the damage Mike Mangan could inflict if everyone he bilked or jilted just slinked off to lick their wounds.
I have expressed to Mike Mangan NUMEROUS times during our year together that I am a firm believer in PERSONAL RESPONSIBILITY. Well unlike Mike Mangan I follow through. My words are not just “stories” to get what I want at the moment. I am a woman of character. If Mike Mangan was any type of moral or decent person with character, he would own up to his wrong doing like a man. Now, stop chuckling, I know that is a very humorous statement. But in a perfect world when someone is as “caught” in their own lies & deceit as Mike Mangan has you would hope that human decency would win out & they would own their own personal responsibility. Sadly, where Mike Mangan is concerned this will NEVER happen. I say that because I WITNESSED him doing that exact thing. He was caught & just kept on lying….lie after lie after lie. Even after the 3rd or 4th version of truth had been outed as yet another lie he would just change the story ever so slightly & keep rolling with it. HE NEVER OWNED UP TO ONE THING WILLINGLY OR EVEN AFTER BEING CAUGHT IN A LIE! NEVER! If it ever appears he is “owning up” to something, it has been my experience that it is just a ploy to either keep the current lie afloat or parlay into another lie.
Sociopath’s are not capable of actually feeling remorse or guilt. They can feign the emotion pretty well, however, actually FEELING the true emotion is out of their skill set. Their brain just doesn’t have that ability. (Funny story. Once after I found out about Mike Mangan’s true marital status & a somewhat accurate head count of his girlfriends, I called him a sociopath. His reaction was to…laugh! He said, & I quote, “I’ve been called that before. It’s not true, but I have heard that from other people”….what a strange reaction. I also find it interesting that he had been called that before. It isn’t a common everyday claim. It is very specific to a “special” kind of individual & I find it interesting that Mike Mangan had been labeled that before I ever wised up to his sociopathic behavior.
One final thought. To Mike Mangan’s current girlfriend, Lisa (the “cleaning lady”) You have been amply warned. You have witnessed Mike Mangan being confronted with the TRUTH by mistress #1 right before your eyes & the eyes of his child. Including him becoming physical & pushing her down the stairs. At this point if you don’t heed all of these warnings it is your own fault & I have no sympathy for you. You will have no “out” as his accomplice. It is one thing to be unknowingly duped, it is quite another thing to be a willing participant in scams & frauds against others while ignoring all the information pointing to dishonest, unethical & morally bankrupt behavior. Stop assisting Mike Mangan now for your own good. When his house of cards falls he should be standing alone. Not taking others down with him. If you continue to assist Mike Mangan you will be under that house with him when it comes down & I promise it will not be pretty. Like I said, you can’t say you haven’t been more than adequately fore-warned. You also are responsible for your OWN PERSONAL RESPONSIBILITY!!!! Words to live by.
Forgot my time stamp 04/03/12…. Mike Mangan keep posting. Even though you are too much of a coward to reply to this website under your own name, (which I find very enlightening. If I was being “unjustly attacked / accused” I would reply in bold letters under my own name & defend myself to my death. That doesn’t seem the case here…hhhmmmm I wonder why?)
it is very entertaining to see how you & your very sick & twisted sisters minds’ work. Very entertaining to say the least.
Mike, you really fucked with the wrong people this time.
Mike apparently lives his pathetic little life by “The 48 Laws of Power” book, by Robert Greene. He broke Law 5 and 19 and 26 though.
Not only did you offend the wrong person, you fucked with NUMEROUS of the wrong people. You will never live this down. Never.
These are the “rules” that guide Mike’s pathetic little excuse for an existence:
1) Never outshine the master.
Make other people come to you; use bait if necessary.
2) Never put too much trust in friends; learn how to use enemies.
3) Conceal your intentions.
4) Always say less than necessary.
5) So much depends on reputation. Guard it with your life.
6) Court attention at all costs.
7) Get others to do the work for you, but always take the credit.
9) Win through your actions, never through argument.
10) Infection: avoid the unhappy and unlucky.
11) Learn to keep people dependent on you.
12) Use selective honesty and generosity to disarm your victim.
13) When asking for help, appeal to people’s self-interests, never to their mercy or gratitude.
14) Pose as a friend, work as a spy.
15) Crush your enemy totally.
16) Use absence to increase respect and honor.
17) Keep others in suspended terror: cultivate an air of unpredictability.
18) Do not build fortresses to protect yourself. Isolation is dangerous.
19) Know who you’re dealing with; do not offend the wrong person.
20) Do not commit to anyone.
21) Play a sucker to catch a sucker: play dumber than your mark.
22) Use the surrender tactic: transform weakness into power.
23) Concentrate your forces.
24) Play the perfect courtier.
25) Re-create yourself.
26) Keep your hands clean.
27) Play on people’s need to believe to create a cultlike following.
28) Enter action with boldness.
29) Plan all the way to the end.
30) Make your accomplishments seem effortless.
31) Control the options: get others to play with the cards you deal.
32) Play to people’s fantasies.
33) Discover each man’s thumbscrew.
34) Be royal in your fashion: act like a king to be treated like one.
35) Master the art of timing.
36) Disdain things you cannot have: Ignoring them is the best revenge.
37) Create compelling spectacles.
38) Think as you like but behave like others.
39) Stir up waters to catch fish.
40) Despise the free lunch.
41) Avoid stepping into a great man’s shoes.
42) Strike the shepherd and the sheep will scatter.
43) Work on the hearts and minds of others.
44) Disarm and infuriate with the mirror effect.
45) Preach the need for change, but never reform too much at once.
46) Never appear perfect.
47) Do not go past the mark you aimed for; in victory, learn when to stop.
48) Assume formlessness
Anonymous’ last post was surreal for me. Those of us that know Mike Mangan know that he indeed does live his life by those very rules. It was actually uncanny to read it. Please, please, please, beware. Spread the word of Mike Mangan’s deceitful ways. The ultimate goal is to bring Mike Mangan to justice for his illegal & immoral behavior & to limit his future victims as much as possible. We all want his new forwarding address to be; C/O Department of Corrections, State of MN, WI, CA, NY…..whoever will take him.04/03/12
In my opinion, everything involving Mike Mangan (aka Michael J. Mangan), Becky Mangan, their children, Margaret Uriah, and Tracy Berneck and all of the many lives that they have touched and destroyed is not only tragic, it’s horrifying. The most horrifying part is they don’t care, and that is demonstrated by the repeat of the con artist behavior over and over again. I knew Mike was a liar and a cheat when it came to women, but reading these accounts demonstrates just how ugly and out of control he is getting.
Mike Mangan has boasted about being a SWINGER and has made it known that he looks for his prey on Match.com and craigslist. Women, please be aware.
The type of behavior Mike is demonstrating is how some serial killers evolve. These types of sociopaths have to look for more and more drastic ways to get their adrenaline rush, and next thing you know, they are doing the most unthinkable of things and it becomes reinforcing – the thrill of thinking they won’t get caught becomes addicting. This stuff happens! In my opinion, which is based on the testimonials on this website, Mike appears to be raising the bar for just how far he will go to get his “rush”, and I find it frightening for all of the women who he will encounter in the coming days, weeks, and months.
Some of you may find it interesting that, after years of lying about his marital status, Mike Mangan and Becky Mangan really have filed for divorce. The next thing we can hope for is that social services will take their minor children away from them.
Here is the MN state link. You can also see who has filed lawsuits against Michael J. Mangan in MN:
http://www.mncourts.gov/publicaccess
“Beyond Disgusted”, I think you are absolutely right that Mike’s need for “thrills” is escalating. He certainly is a dangerous sociopath and may even have the makings of a serial killer. I also have no doubt that he is now using a fake name when he meets new women, because he knows that if they google his real name this website will come up and they will be warned. It makes my skin crawl to think of him prowling for unsuspecting victims online.
I don’t think anyone should beat up on Becky Mangan. One can only imagine that she is literally in the BATTLE OF HER LIFE to extricate herself from the monster that is Mike Mangan, after years and years of abuse that the rest of us can’t even begin to imagine.
Try looking up “gaslighting” on Wikipedia. It is a very interesting read, and is a technique of psychological abuse that I know Mike Mangan uses on his victims.
This monster Mike Mangan has shown that he is amply capable of leading multiple “double lives”. In each “double life” he portrays a very convincing character that is developed to cater to the audience he is performing for. It is apparent to anyone who knows Mike Mangan, or even anyone who has read through these dozens of accounts, that Mike is truly an expert at manipulating people, both through charm and sweet talking, and also through coercion, threats and abuse. Becky has been Mike’s primary and longest running victim, and I can only imagine the toll that takes. No doubt the scope of abuse that Becky Mangan suffered at Mike Mangan’s hands is literally unimaginable to the rest of us who have not lived through this nightmare. I imagine it must be something like the movie, “Sleeping with the Enemy”.
I applaud Becky and the people who are helping her escape from Mike for their courage, as Mike Mangan is no doubt doing his all to make their lives miserable. Quite frankly I think that standing up to a predator and a sociopath like Mike Mangan is heroic. Same goes for Brandi and Heidi for starting this thread to expose Mike Mangan, despite the potential consequences. If someone would have done this years and years ago, and exposed Mike Mangan for what he is, imagine of the grief and destruction that could have been circumvented.
I hope the very best for Becky Mangan, as well as all Mike’s victims, both financial and emotional, as they rebuild their lives and move on to brighter days ahead. Mike Mangan’s days will only get darker, as well as those of his accomplices, Margaret Uriah, Tracy Berneck. They will get what they have earned.
Mike Mangan uses gaslighting.
Below is copied and pasted from Wikipedia: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gaslighting
Gaslighting is a form of psychological abuse in which false information is presented with the intent of making a victim doubt his or her own memory and perception. It may simply be the denial by an abuser that previous abusive incidents ever occurred, or it could be the staging of bizarre events by the abuser with the intention of disorienting the victim.
The term “gaslighting” comes from the play Gas Light and its film adaptations. In those works a character uses a variety of tricks to convince his spouse that she is crazy, so that she won’t be believed when she reports strange things that are genuinely occuring, including the dimming of the gas lamps in the house (which happens when her husband turns on the normally unused gas lamps in the attic to conduct clandestine activities there). Since then, it has become a colloquial expression that is now also used in clinical and research literature.[1][2]
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1 Etymology
2 Introjection
3 Resisting
4 Clinical examples
5 See also
6 References
7 Further reading
[edit] Etymology
The term derives from the 1938 stage play Gas Light (originally known as Angel Street in the United States), and the 1940 and 1944 film adaptations. The plot concerns a husband who attempts to convince his wife and others that she is insane by manipulating small elements of their environment, and insisting that she is mistaken or misremembering when she points out these changes. The title stems from the husband’s subtle dimming of the house’s gas lights, which she accurately notices and which the husband insists she’s imagining.
The term “gaslighting” has been used colloquially since at least the late 1970s to describe efforts to manipulate someone’s sense of reality. In a 1980 book on child sex abuse, Florence Rush summarized George Cukor’s 1944 film version of Gas Light, and writes, “even today the word [gaslight] is used to describe an attempt to destroy another’s perception of reality”.[3]
[edit] Introjection
In an influential article “Some Clinical Consequences of Introjection: Gaslighting”, the authors argue that gaslighting involves the projection and introjection of psychic conflicts from the perpetrator to the victim: ‘this imposition is based on a very special kind of “transfer”…of painful and potentially painful mental conflicts’.[4]
They explore a variety of reasons why the victims may have ‘a tendency to incorporate and assimilate what others externalize and project onto them’, and conclude that gaslighting can be ‘a very complex, highly structured configuration which encompasses contributions from many elements of the psychic apparatus’.[4]
[edit] Resisting
With respect to women in particular, Hilda Nelson argued that “in gaslighting cases…ability to resist depends on her ability to trust her own judgements”[5] Establishing “counterstories” to that of the gaslighter may help the victim re-acquire or even for the first time “acquire ordinary levels of free agency”.[5]
[edit] Clinical examples
Psychologist Martha Stout states that sociopaths frequently use gaslighting tactics. Sociopaths consistently transgress social mores, break laws, and exploit others, but are also typically charming and convincing liars who consistently deny wrongdoing. Thus, some who have been victimized by sociopaths may doubt their perceptions.[6] Jacobson and Gottman report that some physically abusive spouses may gaslight their partners, even flatly denying that they have used violence.[citation needed]
Psychologists Gertrude Gass and William C. Nichols use the term “gaslighting” to describe a dynamic observed in some cases of marital infidelity: “Therapists may contribute to the victim’s distress through mislabeling the women’s reactions. [...] The gaslighting behaviors of the husband provide a recipe for the so-called ‘nervous breakdown’ for some women [and] suicide in some of the worst situations.”[7]
Psychopaths and the rules: to comply or not to comply, how do they decide?
By: Linda Hartoonian Almas, M.S. Ed
When dealing with psychopaths, or individuals with psychopathic features, nothing is as it seems to the naked eye. When in relationships with psychopathic individuals, the non-psychopaths bear the brunt of great responsibility, both real and perceived. After all, the “normals” really are left carrying the loads and picking up the pieces when the psychopaths are tired of playing the games that they initiated. However, the blame or burden they attempt to place on us, while accepting none for themselves, is not legitimate and we should not internalize it. Our actions and behaviors have little or nothing to do with the outcomes of their choices, even if they, for a time, have us believing otherwise.
While I generally feel that we are largely responsible for our own lives and have a fair amount of control over our own destinies, there is no question that when we interact closely with psychopaths, these notions may change. Our playing fields are far from level, altering everything we thought we knew about interpersonal communication and human behavior. In short, we are left reeling because we tend to assume that everyone is normal, or at least not psychopathic, and we act accordingly. We continue on this path until we gain an accurate understanding of how psychopaths function. Once we process and accept what we know, we give ourselves a tremendous gift; understanding. While we cannot change them and we come to know that, this understanding allows us to alter our behaviors, thus eliminating their power and control.
Pick and choose
For me, few questions remain about their behaviors or how to react to them. Almost twenty years’ experience—a combination of personal, professional, and academic—have brought me to this place. However, from time to time, I occasionally find myself pondering how they pick and choose which rules to follow.
At first, I felt the answer was obvious. It would seem that, like anything else they do, the answer would lie in the payoff. Perhaps it does. Given their lack of insight and inability to engage in any actual long term planning, it may be that simple. Nonetheless, the topic has caused me to give pause.
I am able to comprehend that they feel that the rules governing the rest of society simply do not apply to them. I am also able to understand that they have only limited regard for consequences. Furthermore, I realize that they tend to think mainly in the short term, and acknowledge that their desire for immediate gratification may override all else. But is there more; is there some form of rhyme or reason to their compliance or lack thereof?
For example, let’s examine financial obligations, since this tends to be a common area of non-compliance and general mismanagement. Let’s take this scenario one step further, and discuss court ordered financial obligations. In spite of the court system attaching a certain level of importance to these obligations, it is not uncommon for psychopathic individuals, or those with such features, to treat these orders as SUGGESTIONS. Why?
As with anything anyone does, there could be a multitude of reasons. However, psychopaths’ motivations may be more sinister than ours. It is clear that they have no problem insulting the integrity of the courts, but it is likely that this goes much further. Below, are some possible reasons.
Possible Reasons for Non-Compliance:
1. They may want those they owe to “suffer.”
2. They may be engaging in “payback” for something they perceive was done to them. Remember, they see themselves as the actual victims much of the time.
3. They may be attempting to stir the drama pot and elicit reactions or engagements, instigate arguments, or create circular, dead-end “back and forths” over their wrongdoing.
4. They may be attempting to bring out “bad behaviors” so that they look “right” or “justified” in their actions.
5. They may be attempting to frustrate, wear down, or harm financially, emotionally, or otherwise.
6. They may be attempting to exercise power and control over the situation.
7. They may be looking for pity, especially if they have a “good” reason (but you know better) as to why they are unable to pay.
8. They may want those they owe to internalize their wrongdoings, and accept blame. For example, “Had I not (fill in the blank,) I would be getting paid.”
9. They may simply be taking risks, with or without regard for any potential consequences. These risks may be calculated, planned, and enjoyable to them, or they may not give them a second thought.
10. They may simply feel that they have better things to spend “their” money on.
This list is, by no means, exhaustive. As I write, I can think of several more possibilities. Additionally, much of this list is not exclusive to financial choices. It could apply to many different sets of rules or norms. The important thing to remember, regardless of their motivations, is this; these choices are theirs, not ours. The rules and structure that govern society have spoken and in spite of what they decide, very real consequences could come their way in situations regarding such non-compliance or compliance on their terms.
So, how or why do they choose to follow some rules and not others? That is not something for which I can offer an absolute answer. This topic comes with many variables. We each probably hold some very solid theories, in addition to the ones I provided.
What I can offer is that I know it is our responsibility to utilize the gifts we gave (or are in the process of giving) ourselves and employ our knowledge. We must pull strength from our understanding and control ourselves, because reasoning with the unreasonable or attempting to work with those who wish to harm us is fruitless. It is a process that takes practice and persistence, but when we do this, we render them powerless regardless of their actions and choices.
Author Linda Hartoonian Almas has a Master’s Degree in Learning and Behavior. She is former a police officer who had her own run-in with a psychopath. She lectures on domestic violence and is a contributing author of a presentation on psychopathy in the family court system.
This message is for Becky (Mikes Wife). I was told that you are also a former Marine so as a WOMAN Marine myself, I am REMINDING you to pull out your “WM” and take charge and control of your life and your childrens’ lives again. Remember we Adapt, We Overcome, We Improvise, We Take Control. YOU ARE A MARINE, a Frickin WOMAN MARINE!!!! start acting like one. Just because Male Marines outnumber us 75 to 1, does not mean a thing, we had to work TWICE as hard as they did to be noticed half the time. Keep in mind what you learned and put it to use NOW. This is when the WM in you should be the most FEIRCE… Semper FI my sister and good luck cutting this maggot out of your life.
He is indeed using a false name, Mike Mahony was what he used with me. He used his work email, though, so it was easy to find him via the sophisticated tool that is a Google search. Luckily, I only had one date with him before stumbling on this information. Thanks for taking the time to share your experiences – you saved me a lot of grief, because honestly, I liked him and I would definitely have gone out with him again.
I just honestly wonder how STUPID Margaret Uriah and Chris Uriah can possibly be. Have they no dignity or self respect? They are like Mike Mangan’s lap dogs, all drooling and glassy-eyed. I mean, Mike Mangan has real contempt for Margaret and Chris, as he does for all humans. For example, Mike Mangan makes fun of Margaret Uriah for her chin stubble and weight. (Fact is, she does look like Mike Mangan in a wig). And Mike Mangan mocks Chris Uriah for being an unemployable errand boy for who must be micromanaged lest he fuck the job up.
When everyone realized Mike Mangan is a batshit crazy evil fucker they got the hell away from him. But not Margaret and Chris Uriah. Margaret Uriah is willing to perjure herself for Mike Mangan, destroy innocent people’s lives for Mike Mangan, and EVEN have joint bank accounts with Mike Mangan (holy shit…the stuff he does with those bank accounts) Not only did Margaret Uriah know the true character of her brother since the beginning, but she HELPED him in his scams.
I know Margaret Uriah treasures her façade of being an upstanding member of society, Sunday school teacher, etc (vomit!!), when in fact she is a sickening worm. But let me tell you this, Margaret Uriah, from here on out, you should consider your decision to tamper with innocent people’s lives by telling lies very fucking carefully. Otherwise, you can expect that the truth about what you are and what you have done will be made very public. We have evidence of everything and we know how to disseminate it.
Remember the definition of slander/liable. A statement must be FALSE to qualify as slander. And the TRUTH is an ultimate defense from slander or liable. And what we have to share with the world about you is the truth, and we have proof and dozens of witnesses. So consider your situation carefully before your perjure yourself and lie for Mike Mangan, especially as it relates to Becky in their divorce.
How much of your life and soul (if there is anything left) are you willing to sacrifice for your nasty brother who will throw you under the bus without a moment’s hesitation? In fact, he already HAS thrown you under the bus by admitting under oath and on record at his bankruptcy hearing that he used the bank account he shares with YOU for the purpose of hiding assets from his creditors prior and during his bankruptcy. Whoopsie-daisy! (and that is only the beginning) But don’t take my word for it…Go ahead and request a transcript of the bankruptcy hearing.
Mike Mangan and Margaret Uriah and Chris Uriah: know that your every move is being watched by many, many people. Your former victims are united and ANYTHING you do to fuck with ANYONE (including Becky) is being relayed on the “Mike Mangan-is-fucked” Express. So you’d best think twice before screwing with anyone. Get it through your thick heads, Mike and Margaret and Chris, your game is up.
Forgot the post date for above: April, 18th, 2012
@ Dumbass:
When was this date and how did you meet?
to dumbass…
How freudian that bologna rhimes with “Mahony” (his new name he picked) Thanks for posting and letting the rest of us know that we helped save another “potential victim” from Mike Mangan (aka mike mahony) This kind of news makes it all worth it. Like these people post, they are NOT scorn women, these are vicitims of a sociopath that has no remorse for using other people for his selfish needs and wants. Mike Mangan is not capable of caring for anyone but himself. And even though his live is crumbling all around him he still believes he is above all of it and he believes that he is smarter than everyone else and that he WILL get away with it. He won’t though. He will be brought to justice. Hopefully he will be criminally charged very soon.
Forgot to post time and date April 20th at 1pm
4/23/12 What I have noticed, is that Mike Mangan seems to “USE” names of successful professionals in the Minneapolis MN Area… Now it is the name “Mike Mahoney” which if you google it, is an Attorney in the very area he lives and “attempts or fakes” to work if you want to call what Mike does Work… [To me Work means an honest days wages for an honest days work.] I hope this attorney is aware that this man is using a name such as his and I hope that this attorney is doing some type of damage control…If anyone is aware of any of his other alias’ please make them known to others… This is how a potential Criminal investigation will be able to tie all his lies together… Who else but someone who is trying to HIDE his true self or his true past uses different names when introducing himself?
Thank you “dumbass” for posting (that sounds funny to write
. It is good to know the word is getting out, and also interesting to see the patterns and predictability of Mike’s mode of operation. However, unfortunately there are most certainly still multiple women that he is currently engaging simultaneously. History has shown that at any one time, Mike Mangan/”Mahony” always has multiple women in the “pipeline” that he is working to reel in at various stages of a relationship.
For all his skill at pathological lying, Mike Mangan CLEARLY is not the sharpest tool in the shed. Since he is no doubt reading these posts, going forward let’s not give him any indication of how anyone found this website to be warned. Who knows how long it would have taken dipshit Mike to put it together that his email was tipping people off to his real name. But either way, pathological liar or not, Mike Mangan can only go so far before his target discovers his true name and identity. But, of course, that won’t stop Mike from trying. It is as though Mike Mangan really thinks that he is somehow altering the fabric of reality by weaving a brand new reality with his lies. CRAZY!!!
Ladies, if you encounter Mike Mangan “in the wild”, and if you feel comfortable, please post and let others know how you met him, when you met him, where you met him, what he said his name was, and any other notable info. Then spread the word about this monster!!! He will be taken down.
Margaret Uriah is a failed human being. In my opinion Margaret Uriah should not have access to any children whatsoever. (Sunday school teacher??? Are you kidding me? I shudder to think.) The fact that she is a mother and has children of her own is simply frightening. Margaret Uriah was integral to the horrific psychological and emotional abuse of his children by using them as pawns to manipulate. Margaret Uriah also blatantly lied to women about Mike Mangan’s relationship status, telling them that Mike was a divorced single father, and played along with every one of Mike Mangan’s sick farces. Not to mention Margaret Mangan was as accomplice in his business fraud. I can only imagine what happened to Mike Mangan and Margaret Uriah as children to cause these siblings to grow up to be such perverted, revolting excuses for human beings. But they are adults now and responsible for their actions and victimizing others.
To “Christopher”, instead of posting on this forum, you should look your nasty self in the mirror and ask yourself why you are defending the INDEFENSIBLE? What is it that you are hiding, and what is it that you have to lose should Mike Mangan complete his downward decent into flames? What does Mike Mangan have on you that you are going to bat for him? Hmmm, I can only imagine…
Regarding your lame-ass revenge quotes I take issue with several things:
1) You misquoted Francis Bacon. This was clearly intentional on your part, as you couldn’t find a legitimate quote to support your embarrassingly transparent agenda.
2) You forgot to include the best revenge quote of all: “Revenge is a dish best served cold”.
3) You fail to acknowledge the fact that revenge in the face of evil and outrageous wrong doing is a natural and healthy human reaction. It is as old as time, and within reason, revenge serves a very real and legitimate evolutionary purpose by teaching evil people there are consequences and curbing their activities.
Let’s not kid ourselves: if Mike Mangan were born in a different time or a different place, he wouldn’t have made it to the ripe age of 41 because his victims would have removed this festering monstrosity from the face of the earth, and thus prevented continued future victimization. Mike Mangan only has continued his activities this long because he happens to have been lucky enough to be born into a “civilized society”, relatively speaking, where he thus far he has been able to stall, defraud and manipulate the legal system in his favor to evade consequences. However, the legal noose is tightening. I think we all anticipate the day when Mike Mangan is safely tucked away in jail. And I have to say, I don’t think Mike Mangan will fare too well in jail. I imagine Mike will have his “dance card” filled up daily with eager suitors. He is charming, after all.
Posted May 4th, 2012.
See below for info about Mike Mangan’s failed attempt at bankruptcy: copied and pasted from Mike Mangan’s bankruptcy “Stipulation and Waiver of Debtors Discharge.”
UNITED STATES BANKRUPTCY COURT
DISTRICT OF MINNESOTA
THIRD DIVISION
In Re: Bankruptcy 11-37156
Chapter 7 Case
Michael J. Mangan,
Debtor.
STIPULATION AND WAIVER OF DEBTOR’S DISCHARGE
WHEREAS, Debtor filed a petition under Chapter 7 of Title 11 of the United
States Code on November 15, 2011;
WHEREAS, (trustee name) is the duly appointed Chapter 7 Trustee; and
WHEREAS, the parties wish to resolve the issues related to Debtor’s discharge under 11
U.S.C. § 727 as follows;
IT IS HEREBY STIPULATED AND AGREED, by and between the parties, through their respective attorneys of record, that Debtor hereby waives any right to a discharge pursuant to 11 U.S.C. §727(a)(10), and that any party hereto may forthwith, and without notice to any other party, apply to the Court pursuant to this Stipulation for an Order directing that Debtor be denied discharge.
Dated: April 16, 2012
Case 11-37156 Doc 40 Filed 04/16/12 Entered 04/16/12 14:23:32 Desc Main
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Case 11-37156 Doc 40 Filed 04/16/12 Entered 04/16/12 14:23:32 Desc Main
Document Page 2 of 4
Dated: __________________________
Michael J. Mangan, Debtor
Case 11-37156 Doc 40 Filed 04/16/12 Entered 04/16/12 14:23:32 Desc Main
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UNITED STATES BANKRUPTCY COURT
DISTRICT OF MINNESOTA
THIRD DIVISION
In Re: Bankruptcy 11-37156
Chapter 7 Case
Michael J. Mangan,
Debtor.
Based upon the Stipulation and Waiver of Debtor’s Discharge and the court being fully advised in the premises,
IT IS HEREBY ORDERED:
That Debtor’s discharge under Chapter 7 of Title 11 of the United States Code is denied and the Clerk of Bankruptcy Court shall send notice of the denial of discharge to all creditors.
Dated:
________________________________
Chief United States Bankruptcy Court
Fun Factoid: Bankruptcy Fraud is a felony and carries a penalty of $250,000 and/or 5 years in prison.
WOW!! I dont know this man but I just read through all of this and Im a little speachless! I wish I had this much support on the guy I called out, maybe I didnt reveal enough…lol. This man sounds like the ULTIMATE piece of shit. To just use people like they are toys. And his innocent children! UGH!! IM PROUD OF YOU LADIES FOR THIS!! GET HIS NAME OUT THERE, MAYBE MAKE SOME CRAIGSLIST ADDS URSELVES, DONT LET HIM VICTIMIZE ANYONE ELSE! These kinds of people make me sick, especially when there are others that are so BLIND to who you KNOW who they really are!
“Christopher” using ur scare tactics arent going to work with these woman anymore. As a business owner I know a thing or two about libel and all that other shit you claimed here. You have no case because everything posted was TRUE. And it can be proven. You’re going to spend (other victims) money TO LOOSE
Below are some retrospective videos of Mike Mangan’s business fraud.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Pei0y-yCpTQ&feature=related
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=C9Elaonwquo&feature=related
As a sociopath, Mike Mangan lies effortlessly and fluidly, and his substancelessness allows him to convincingly assume any number of false roles, much like the characters in “The Talented Mr. Ripley” and “Catch Me If You Can”. Mike’s fraudulent “businesses” stole and cheated dozens and dozens of people over the years, both investors and customers. Margaret Uriah (Mike’s sister) and Tracy Berneck (Mike’s accountant) knew the financial reality behind Mike’s fraud and schemes, and facilitated the fraud for years and years.
I would call them “bitches”, but that would be insulting and unfair to female dogs everywhere.
Just one step closer to putting this guy in PRISON… Good luck to all of Mike Mangan’s victims of his crimes. If you can’t get your money back from him, I hope you get some (even if it is a little) satisfaction that this man will soon be charged, tried and convicted by a jury of his peers and put in prison where he belongs…Mike Mangan, you are NOWHERE Near as smart as you think you are and everyone can see right through you now. You can no longer shame or guilt your victims to just walk away. You finally poked the wrong “Bear(s)” with a Stick and everyone knows what happens when you do that…
Posted May 7th
Shut up, you fucking bitch!
Settle down Nick, it’s going to be ok.
To “Nick Poehlman”…..very intelligent response. I can see you have put a lot of thought into it. May we dare ask what your relationship is to the Mike Mangan epidemic? Or are you just a empty, lonely, angry little man spewing obscenities at complete strangers? Do you have anything of value to contribute or was your last post the sum of your capabilities? Just asking……
If you had some integrity, you wouldn’t be posting on here, bitch. As for my capability, I’m not a dumb fuck rag getting all pissy on a site because I was a stupid cunt and got screwed over by some guy. You fucking whore!
Nick is a sad little fella with nothing better to do but post unintelligent nonsense on a bunch of random pages on this site. Someone apparently outed him as a sociopath, and now, lacking any emotional self-regulation, he is acting out like a 2 year old who missed nap time. When he has worm himself out with fussing and whining and pooping himself, he will calm down and lose interest and go away… just like the two year old.
Just ignore him and he will go away.
Nick is mad about having HIV from what the other posts indicate.
Margaret Uriah is a sociopath accomplice. She actively helps Mike Mangan in hiding his double/triple/quadruple lives by lying and erasing evidence.
For example, a “girlfriend” of Mike’s found out Mike was not divorced, but still married, and she managed to get ahold of Becky’s (Mike’s wife) phone number to call and warn Becky that her husand was cheating on her. Becky didn’t answer, so the “girlfriend” left a message, and then told Mike what she had done and that he was going to be exposed. Mike Mangan, doing damage control, then told his sister, Margaret Uriah, to hack into Becky’s cell phone to erase a voice message before Becky could listen to it. Mike Mangan even bragged to the “girlfriend” about using Margaret Uriah as a tool to help keep Becky in the dark.
This is the sick, sick TRUTH. All the “girlfriends”/witness involved, as well as the phone records, substantiate the FACTS stated above.
Margaret Uriah also serves as the go-between for Mike anytime a “girlfriend” suspects something, or there is a fight in the relationship. When the “girlfriend” no longer accepts Mike Mangan’s phone calls, then Margaret is sent in as a trogan horse to sweet talk the girlfriend and tell them how much Mike loves her, how she has never seen Mike so in love before, and how Mike is lost without her in his life… etc etc etc.
Margaret Uriah and her brother Mike Mangan have this routine down pat. It is pretty clear that Margaret Uriah has a lot of practice over the years doing Mike Mangan’s dirty work and erasing the evidence to enable Mike Mangan to lead his SICK double/triple/quadruple lives.
There are also many disturbing emails and other communications from Margaret Uriah to “girlfriends” in which Margaret brushes off Mike Mangan’s sick lifestyle and poses as a “friend” to manipulate the same woman she systematically deceived for months/years. Margaret Uriah encourages the girlfriend to just let it go and “heal”, but most importantly tells her not to talk about what she knows about Mike Mangan to anyone else. Margaret Uriah asks the women not to make the truth about Mike Mangan public because it would make Margaret Uriah “uncomfortable” in her social circles if anyone knew. Funny how Margaret Uriah thinks she deserves to be comfortable when she failed to consider how “UNcomfortable” HER actions had made the many women she lied to about Mike Mangan and how “Uncomfortable” all the many people she helped Mike Mangan steal from are.
Margaret is very good at playing the ass-kiss, sugary sweet church-lady role, but don’t be fooled, she is a shell of a human, a chameleon. Just like Mike Mangan, Margaret Uriah has no morals, no ethics, no sense of right and wrong. And in Margaret Uriah’s “business” there are countless people she has cheated that I personally have talked to. If you read through the earlier posts you will see several accounts. Mike Mangan are Margaret Uriah are sick, sick people. They belong in a circus freak show, or better yet, behind prison bars!!!
I love the circus.
I love you sean!
Nick is fat guy with tits and can barely see his sack.
our little boy is going to be evicted soon ….. would somebody please help him out and offer a place to stay ?
Mangan is being evicted from his rented “mini mansion”. He had an unlawful detainer filed 5/15/12.
See court records: http://pa.courts.state.mn.us/default.aspx
Mangan’s car got repossessed recently too.
And this after stealing 100s of thousands of dollars…!! This loser couldn’t plan ahead to save his life. Guess the criminal lifestyle is feast or famine?
Now the race is on to quick find someone to steal/swindle money from for rent before his eviction hearing on May 25th!